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Categories: Death & Bereavement, Sadness

Is Daddy Coming Back in a Minute?

By honestly explaining sudden death in a clear and simple language a young reader can understand, this book will aid a child who is trying to process the concept of a loved-one passing away. The book discusses the feelings of sadness that a child will inevitably feel, but reinforces the message that it’s okay to be happy sometimes, too.
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Is Daddy Coming Back in a Minute?

Author: Elke and Alex Barber
Illustrator: Anna Jarvis
Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers

This story is all told in Alex’s own words, and accompanied by eye-catching and colourful illustrations to match the emotions of the page.

Alex tells us that he is three, and that he’s about to go off on a boys’ weekend with Daddy – his mum and baby sister, Olivia are staying at home. Alex describes the fun he has with his daddy at the start of their little holiday. The next morning, Daddy starts to feel unwell. He asks Alex to find assistance, and Alex tries to find help. An ambulance arrives, and Daddy is taken to hospital.

Some time later, Mummy arrives at the holiday park, carrying Alex’s toy ambulance from home.  Alex is surprised to see her. He asks, “Is Daddy coming back in a minute?” Mummy kneels down and hugs Alex, and explains that the bumping noise in her chest is her heart. She goes on to describe what happens when a heart stops beating. Then, Alex’s mummy explains very clearly that Daddy’s heart has stopped beating, and he is never coming back.

At first, Alex needs clarification, and asks, “Has he gone to work?” Mummy reiterates the message that Daddy is not coming back. Alex asks where Daddy is, and she explains that some people like to think of a dead person being up in the sky, or as a star.  Alex doesn’t want Daddy to be a star – he wonders if daddy asks politely enough, he may be able to come back down. Mummy explains that Daddy will have done all he could to come back down, but the ambulance people couldn’t fix him. They did their best, but he was too badly broken. Mummy reassures Alex that finding help was the best thing to do, so Daddy wasn’t alone when he died, and that Alex did a great job. It is not his fault.

Mummy hugs Alex, and says that they can talk about Daddy every day and always remember how much he loved them. Alex explains that the next few days are very busy. Many people visit. The phone rings a lot. Mummy tells Alex that tomorrow, they will go to a place called a crematorium to talk about Daddy.

The next day, a big black car arrives.  Alex is impressed with it, and Mummy has to take pictures for him. Alex plays cars in the crematorium with his auntie while Mummy, Grandpa and many friends tell funny stories about Daddy.

Later, at bed time, Alex wants to know who will look after him when Mummy dies. Mummy reassures him that hopefully, she won’t die until she’s very old and Alex is grown up. But together, they come up with a list of all the people who would be there to look after Alex and Olivia if Mummy dies. It’s an impressive list full of people they all love.

Alex is still concerned, this time about how many more sleeps he has until he has to die. Mummy takes her children to the beach, where they collect and count hundreds of shells, and Mummy reassures Alex that the number of shells is tiny compared to the number of sleeps Alex has before he has to die.

At the end of the book, Alex tells us that he is now four (and that he’s having a monster party and is really excited!). Sometimes, he still has bad dreams, so he tells people about them – either Mummy or a friend or his teachers. Everybody is good at listening when Alex says “Excuse me, please, I am feeling sad today because my daddy died.”

Alex says he still misses his daddy, and wishes he could come back. He talks about him every day, but still has fun with Mummy and his little sister.

Mummy says “It’s okay to be sad, but it’s okay to be happy, too.”

And, says Alex, they are.

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Things we liked:

The love between father and son recorded forever in the first few pages of the book is precious. Subsequently, the strong, honest relationship between Alex and his mum is admirable. There are cheerful interludes, when Alex’s mum comes up with innovative ways to cope with their situation, with her use of activities, factual explanations and analogies.
The illustrations are charming, and the illustrator uses colours appropriate to the mood of the page.

This is a beautifully produced, brave book. Alex’s story is a tragic one, but on every page, any sadness is met with an equal amount of love, and Alex’s emotionally honest nature is testament to the success his mum, the author, has achieved with this frank and deeply personal publication. It is relatable, honest, true and uncomplicated, with great illustrations to boot.

Worth noting:

The strength of this book is that it is so honest. The author does not try to sugar-coat the situation, and uses frank language in response to Alex’s questions. This is done in a loving and caring way, and in turn, encourages honesty from Alex himself, who is able to verbalise his own feelings in a similar style. However, this approach may not appeal to all parents and carers.

Review by: Rebecca Seymour

Categories: Death & Bereavement, Sadness
Tags: father, fears, loss, mother



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